Sunday, January 15, 2012

A Journey to Boston

BJ and I got married in October of 1997, and we moved into our first place a month later.  We spent our first 'married' birthdays there, and we had so much fun decorating for our first Christmas together!  BJ was working at his Dad's car lot at the time, and I was driving back and forth to Oakland City to finish my English Degree.

 When spring break rolled around for me, which happened to be a cold and snowy one that year, I decided it was time to start voluteering my time somewhere, and spring break seemed like a good opportunity.  And, after not very much a lot of thought about where to start my voluteering, I jumped into to my car and headed out to the Vincennes Pet Port - with strict instructions from BJ and everyone who knew me, to NOT come home with a pet on my first trip.  I'm an animal psychopath.  I save and rescue everything that comes into my view - including rodents and bugs.  But that's another post. 

When I arrived at the Pet Port, I was taken into a room to fill out papers so I could be a volunteer.  I had completely planned to head to the Cat Room and give the cats some lovin'.   As I finished my paper work, a man in a sock hat, with a scruffy salt and pepper beard, volunteered to show me around.  We took a look at the puppy area, and I said my pleasantries, "Oh, how cute," when inside I was doing everything in my power to keep from running in the room, gathering as many as I could hold in my arms and darting out the door.  But I didn't.  I made it all the way back to the 'big dog' cages before the nice man said, "I know you told me 782 times that you CAN NOT take an animal home, but there's just one dog in particular you have to meet.  He's over here with this red dog - they were found runnin' together, and brought in by a young couple yesterday.  You just have to meet this guy - he's somethin' else."  And so, I walked to the cage and laid eyes on the red dog first.  My heart sank with sadness, obviously, worried about her fate. 

But then, I laid eyes on the dog he was talking about.  He was obviously mostly border collie, but bigger - he was built just like "Lassie" but with a bit shorter hair, and he was black and white - not at all what I was expecting.  The man said to me, "Let me get him out - you can start by walking him around outside a bit."  Fine.  I could handle this.  "I won't get completely attached after a short walk.  I can handle putting him back in the prison cage when we're done."  The man put the leash on him, handed it to me, and off we went out the door.  I'd take a step, and then he'd take one.  I'd go four, he'd go four.  What a good dog.  And then, I bent down, face to face, and I was done.  Finished.  Finito.  When I looked into his eyes, as corney as this sounds, it was as if he already knew me.  He knew I was coming.  He knew who I was.  I grabbed him around the neck and told him everything would be ok.

I walked him back in, handed the leash to the man, and headed home to discuss the situation with BJ.  I knew all the logical reasons why we shouldn't get him.  I knew we lived in a small apartment, and he was a BIG dog.  I knew all these things, and yet, I wanted him.  I wanted him with all my being.  And, as I explained all of this and more to my husband, he gently, but adamantly, said NO.  NO.  NO.  I wasn't mad, because I knew the deal we had made before I went.  But, I was persistent enough to convince him to go see him.  I knew that would hook him.  Nope.  "I've never really liked Border Collies."  I thought to myself, 'Oh yeah, you've known a lot of Border Collies, have you - tons, huh?"  But again, I wasn't mad, just crushed.  Beyond crushed.  I cried to myself in the car and prayed - out loud - that God would lead him to a good family.  That this creature, who had stolen my heart in two minutes of knowing him - would live a good life.

The next day, a Sunday, I moped and worried and pouted until my whole family finally told me to get over it.  He would be fine.  I had made a deal.  They were right.  It was a bit warmer that day, so my brother and BJ decided to go play a round of golf.  Good.  I didn't have to look at the face of the man who broke my heart into a million pieces.  Hmph.  I was NOT bitter at all.  I hung out at my parents' place all day until BJ called and he and Stevie had picked up pizza and headed to the apartment, so my Pops needed to bring me home.  My dad talked to me on the way home about all the ways I SHOULDN'T be mad at my husband over this dog.  I finally relented, and planned to apologize as soon as I saw him.  I opened the door, and I looked at BJ, standing by the couch, with THE dog at his feet. 

He and my brother had gone to the Pet Port after golf, and rescued the being that would change my life in so many ways.  I was speechless.  I truly was.  My awesome husband and wonderful Bub were grinning from ear to ear telling the story of how they had gotten him, took him to the car lot, and bathed him in cold water (the only water source there) and he hadn't so much as growled, barked or complained in any way.  They KNEW he was a good dog, and they had both felt what I felt the day before.  He had won them over in two hours. 

For the next couple of days, we debated names.  We wondered about his past, but found out from the vet that he was actually still a puppy - just barely full grown, probably not a year yet.  We tried out names on him to see if he might recognize one.  Then, we thought of the Celtics - BJ's favorite NBA team when he was little.  "Celtic?"  No.  "Bird?"  Uh uh.  "Larry?"  Absolutely not.  And as if out of a story, BJ and I at the same time blurted out, "Boston?"  And, in perfect timing, our 'Boston' looked at us like he was pleased.  That was it.  Boston.

Over the next FOURTEEN years - yes, FOURTEEN - Bossy was more than a dog could ever be.  He laid with me during my sadness of losing our first baby; he sat with me through the fear of my next pregnancy, and then welcomed Sam with open arms - despite being demoted to our 'second baby' behind Sam.  He welcomed all of our kids, and pets, and craziness.  He became best friends with my Bub's dog Jewell, and they enjoyed several years of romping around in the snow together.  He loved nothing more than chasing the kids around the yard - especially in the snow.  All of our friends knew Bos - and most of them agreed that he 'knew' them the minute they locked eyes with him.  He was a fierce protector - with a deep, scary bark.  I ALWAYS felt safe with my Bos around.  He was not a cuddler, though.  He preferred to roam the house at night, almost as if he was on shift.

In the last year, Bossy's health took a turn for the worse.  The dog was 14 - of course it took a turn for the worse.  His bones were aching, and he was diagnosed with Congestive Heart Failure.  But you know what, he still would get a little spry at times and chase one of our cats around the yard.  We were SHOCKED he made it through Christmas as his age and health was obviously affecting him greatly.  Three days ago, he started to foam and drool and his breathing was so labored that it was painful to look at him.  As we were eating lunch - as a family - at our table...I made the call to our vet.  They instructed us to bring him in, and they would put him down and end his suffering.  To say that our hearts were shattered, would seriously be the understatement of the year.  This dog - this being - this soul - was such an integral part of The Thornes. 

I bawled as I watched each of my kids hug his neck and tell him goodbye, and that they would see him again.  BJ and were both crying uncontrollably as he picked him up and put him in the car for the last time.  We arrived at the vet and they took us into the room.  At this point, he was so labored in his breathing, we honestly thought he might die on his own.  Bos walked over to where I was kneeling on the floor and lay down.  Dr. Catt gave him an injection to take away his pain and sedate him deeply.  BJ and I both were talking to him, and when the medicine hit him, he was so peaceful and breathing so calmly.  I know God was there - ready to welcome him.  As sad and broken as I was, when Dr. Catt walked in with the injection that would stop the heart of the soul that had given us so much throughout his life, I was at peace.  I put my arms around his neck - just as I had done on that miraculous first meeting fourteeen years ago and told him it was okay; we loved him, and we would be with him again.  Dr. Catt told me that when she has a patient that she has to euthanize, it's not nearly as sad when she knows it's an animal who has lived the fullest and best life possible.  That gave me so much hope and peace, and I think it shows what kind of doctor she truly is.

Boston - our journey to you and with you will be one that changed us forever.  Thank you for choosing us.  Thank you for being a Dog among Dogs.  Thank you for protecting us and loving us with every fiber of your being. You truly were, are, and will be a part of us forever.  Until we meet again, my sweet peanut butter loving boy, God Speed and Sweet Dreams.

11 comments:

Porsche said...

B- I'm so sorry for your loss, and I wish I was working that day so I could have been there for you :( I'm glad that Melody was there though because I know that she made the experience as best as she could. she is very good at that. I cried reading your blog of course. But just wanted to say that I wish I was working, cuz you know that I would have been for you. Hope you have a good day.

Anonymous said...

I am soooo sorry Brandie. I cried reading your blog. There is nothing better than a great dog. People could learn a few things from the loyalty of dogs. You made me think of Gunny and Sawyer, our 2 great dogs, that are showing Boston around Heaven right now!
Jenn

Kelly said...

Wishing I could give you a hug right now...not that it would take away the pain, but to comfort you in knowing ALL DOGS GO TO HEAVEN. Bos is at the head of the line. Animals/pets changes our lives forever...they give us unconditional love that no other being can give us. I know you are sad, but also know you were blessed. Truly, however, Boston was the blessed one to have you as his master!

Brenda said...

Brandi I can totally relate to that.. We have had to do that to 2 of ours so far and both went to where mel works.. they are the best and Doc Wilson even came out to our truck so everyone would see me and Mark crying like babies.... Hang in there and my advise is get a new one rightaway dont wait.... Oh and dont be surprised when you get a sympathy card from them either. they really do truly car up there.... Hang in there

Anonymous said...

I just read your blog, and I wished you would have warned me it was about your dog and having to put him to sleep. I have a border collie that I rescued from the Daviess Co. shelter, and just like your Boston, that dog knew me from the minute I looked at him. He is so shy around everyone, but he immediately took to me. He was at that shelter for 6 months before I found him and I always tell him that God was saving him for me and that he (my dog, Cooper) was the one who saved me. He is my buddy and I can't bear the thought of him leaving this world. My deepest sympathy on the loss of your dog.

Melissa said...

Oh Brandie, I'm so sorry. I know how much you love that sweet, big doggy. I know how much you and BJ and the kids are going to miss him. I know he's up in puppy heaven, smiling down on the family that loved him so well and so long. Hugs to you all.

Joan said...

Oh Brandie, I'm so sorry to hear this! What a good life he led with your family! It makes me realize that even though she is wild and crazy and have had a few times muttered under my breath "what on earth was I thinking in getting a puppy" that my little Jane is a sweet girl who is growing into a cherished member of our family.

phutch said...

I just hope Shelby doesnt read this story. She cries when reading all dog stories on the interent. RIP Boston

Cyndi G. said...

So sorry you're going through this. Don't forget you have a little Pippin down the street from your studio when you need some happy. :)

As many people told me when my Dusty died (also of heart problems, also at age 14), rest content in the knowledge that you gave a wonderful soul a healthy, safe and happy life for a long time, and you will see him again. :)

Cassie said...

I am so sorry Brandie. I know how hard it is. You probably don't remember the dog we had when we lived on Clark Street, but I had her for 13 years and we had to take away her pain as well.

I'm sure Ginji and Boston are having a ball, literally, up in Heaven!

And of course, not a dry eye reading your blog. It was beautiful.

Mandy said...

Awwwww... I am so sorry Brandie. As I sit here reading your blog I am watching my ol'man Eli struggle to get to his feet....no way to stop the tears. I hope the memories of him and the pawprints he has left on all your hearts help you and your family as you celebrate his life. My thoughts are with you all. Mandy